Monday, July 30, 2012

Henry the Preacher-Volume 1, Number 3


A big "Thank You" goes out to my friend, Greg York for the base idea behind this one.  I don't know exactly what he had in mind, but to me this is a play on how the "itching ears" of some congregations leads to a revolving door of ministers who haven't scratched those ears just right in what they've preached.

Regards,
Mike DeCamp

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Two Days in September

Dear readers,
I wrote the following on September 21, 2002...the day after tornados ripped through central Indiana damaging one friend's house and destroying another's.  I lost this little piece of verse for several years because I forgot where I wrote it down, but I found it today as I skimmed through an old journal.  I hope you appreciate the sentiment.

Two Days in September

Imagine two days in mid-September
Forty-eight hours of unbroken time

The first delivers the terror of shattered glass and splintered trees
Blackened skies and the winds of destruction

The second refreshes hope with bright sun and blue skies
Singing birds and the gentle tinkle of a wind chime

Amidst both is the power of God
The Hope of mankind
Those who trust in Him may walk with confidence
Regardless the day

Saturday, July 14, 2012

A Muncie Boyhood-Church or Sleeping In?



As a boy in Muncie, I didn’t go to church.  Sunday was just a day to sleep in.  My dad read his Bible a great deal, but otherwise spiritual things were unknown in our family.  I liked my dad’s Bible.  It had some nice pictures of Old Testament characters and of Jesus holding some lambs.  However, the extent of my early scriptural training evolved out of the annual viewing of “The Ten Commandments,” “The Robe,” or “Ben Hur.”
Obviously, there were a lot of churches of all sizes in Muncie back in my youth.  St. Mary’s Catholic Church.  The High Street Methodist.  I think Glad Tidings was getting things going.  There were a multitude of smaller Baptist and Pentecostal churches.  Even so, the only head-bowing we did was to put our heads on our pillows.  I heard the words “Jesus Christ” and “God” but they were usually connected with other less respectable words and spoken with some anger.
I did visit a church for a couple of months with my mom after my brother died.  I think Parsons Mortuary arranged for a local minister for the service and my mom started going there for a while after the funeral.  I can’t remember the name of the place, but only that it was located near downtown somewhere just south and west of the corner of Wysor and Madison.  My strongest memory of the place was that each Sunday some of the kids in my class were picked to light some candles in the main service and everyone got excited about maybe being picked.  I did get to do it once…I felt very special that week.  Soon, however, we fell back into old habits and Sundays became the day to sleep again.
My sister took me to church once.  I think it was the Latter Day Saints church when it was out on Wheeling Avenue.  She was mortified though, when my little niece wrote a word she had seen scribbled on a wall by her house on the chalkboard…a word that is four letters long and starts with “F.” 
We never went back.
Sometime before my brother's death in 1969, we got some new neighbors.  It could have been a little before then, or it could have been shortly after, but a new family bought the duplex next door and moved in.  I made friends with the two boys, and my mom and dad became friendly with the man and woman.  Emma, the young mother was a Christian and took her boys to church every Sunday.  When Vacation Bible School at the Fairlawn Church of Christ rolled around, Emma took the opportunity to bring me along.  This was the beginning of my involvement with church; an involvement that has now spanned over forty years.
This is Emma and her kids (Rex, Roy, and Ronda) in the picture below.  Her simple act of being a good Christian neighbor changed the course of my life and had tremendous influence on many aspect of my family.
After my brother died, my mother was distraught for many years, and Emma did what she could to be a good neighbor and help. Mom spent several stays at Ball Memorial Hospital.  During one of those stays, Emma arranged for her minister, a guy named Ron Miller, to visit her.  Ron became a sort of counselor for my mother leading to more hospital visits and several phone calls.  Eventually, they conspired to sic the youth minister, Mike Runcie on me.  The conversation in my memory went something like this:
Youth Minister:  “Mike, you should ride the church bus to church on Sundays.”
Me:  “I sleep in on Sundays.”
Youth Minister:  “If you ride the bus and come to church, in the summers we go to Kings Island, Cincinnati Reds games, and then we go to camp for a week.”
Me:  “What time will you pick me up?”
Basically, he had me at Reds games.  I wasn’t going to get to go to those places any other way.  Church on Sundays seemed like a reasonable trade off.  I became a “JOYbus” kid.  The JOY stood for: Jesus first, Others second, Yourself last.
By high school I had my nephew and my niece riding along with me most weeks, and I was paying attention.  I did have one experience in my earliest years that pointed me toward God when at about the age of three, my dad told me that the most important thing I could ever do is love God.  That stuck with me.  So, on those Sundays as I sat on the hard wooden pews inside the little brick building at 13th and Monroe listening to either Ron Miller or Billy Harris preaching about Jesus, salvation, and baptism…I was paying attention.  On October 11, 1976, that youth minister that bribed me to ride the JOYbus baptized me and I became a member of the Fairlawn Church of Christ.
Frankly, I’ve got to tell you that this changed the whole course of my life.
I was a pudgy, self-conscious, insecure young guy coming from a family where both of my brothers had been in serious trouble; one spent time in prison and the other committed suicide.  My mom had retreated to her bedroom after my brother’s death and had medicated herself heavily to ease the anguish.  It was my dad and me at home, and we weren’t on the same page a lot.  I was at a fork in the road.  I could follow my neighborhood friends down the course of the alcohol, sleeping around, and for some….drugs.  Or, I could pursue this church thing.
I chose the latter.
A few months after the baptism, I began to devote myself to the youth group and became a church boy.  Sunday morning, Sunday night, Monday night youth group, and Wednesday night class.  Plus, the summer activities:  Camp Indogan, Reds games, Kings Island, youth rallies and conferences, etc.
I grew up over the next few years.  I dated a cute girl named Toni.  I slimmed down.  I made new friends.  And, I gained a sense of self-respect that helped me to eventually overcome my insecurities.  I even learned to do a little public speaking…which has come in quite handy in my career in industrial sales.  It wasn’t quick and it wasn’t easy, but the love I received at church and the challenge of being more for God drove me to push through my personal obstacles.
I suppose I can trace most of the best things in my life back to that little congregation on Monroe Street.  I met my wife there.  I learned to push beyond myself there.  I gained personal strength there.  I grew the roots of my faith there.
And, I learned that sleeping in on Sundays isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
Some related links:
My Muncie Boyhood story that discusses my brother's death...
My post about how my dad instilled my initial seed of faith...

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Spanking and Chicken

It's been a while since I've commented on societal ills or public policy new stories.  In fact, it's been a couple of weeks since I've posted anything new on here.  I suppose I just haven't had anything to say, and when you don't have anything useful or interesting to say...it's just best to be quiet.  However, in the last couple of days, I've run across a couple of ABC News stories that have kind of stirred some thoughts.

First, there's the subject of spanking.  Take a gander at this video clip from Good Morning America:

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/video/parenting-techniques-spank-spank-16716075

I think our world is going a bit wacko on this whole subject...and, for the most part it is because some folks have abused the tool of spanking...resulting in abused children...and thus....wham.....all spanking is evil.  I'm not buying what they are selling.

I suppose there are reasonable arguments on both sides of this issue...but, I am coming down on the side of being in favor of spanking....assuming the parent is following a few reasonable guidelines...such as:

A.  Never spank out of anger--NEVER!
B.  Be under control.
C.  Explain the "whats" and the "whys" to the child so that they understand.
D.  Always...always...always...reinforce the child with positive comments of love and by showing loads of affection.
E.  Refer back to rule A.

Personally, I think way more "mood disorders" are caused by verbal abuse, neglect, manipulation, and negativity than could ever be caused by spanking...even spanking done poorly.  Beyond that, a lack of even what sometimes may seem as harsh punishment can leave a child with the impression that there just aren't consequences for bad behavior.  Folks, the world is a rough place.  The sooner a child learns that there are consequences and sometimes painful consequences for their actions, the better.

As to the guy in the video who smacked the boy on the rear with his belt during a game of catch, well, I'd refer him back to my first rule...but, beyond that, I think it's pretty presumptive for all the country to judge him based on the video shot by a nosy neighbor through his window blinds.  My guess is that there is a completely different story behind that situation rather than the accusation that he smacked him for dropping the ball.  It seems to me that folks are doing a lot of assuming.

One last thought on that subject before I move on to chicken...bad, abusive spanking results in one of two things.  First, it leads to more bad spanking as those kids grow up and think that is the way to do it.  Bad actions lead to worse actions.  Secondly, it leads to the counter-balance of parents that lump all spanking into that one category and call it abuse.

Young parents need to be taught how to spank appropriately.

Now, on to chicken....take a look at this story:
http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/health/2012/07/11/superbug-dangers-in-chicken-linked-to-8-million-at-risk-women/

I bet those Chick-fil-a cows are hating this story 'cause I'm headed back to beef.  My wife feeds me chicken all the time...to the point (bock) that I'm starting to (bock) grow feathers under my arms.  (Bock, bock.)  All I need is a real good excuse to start demanding more red meat on my plate!  Moooooove over wings...I'm goin' back to the burger!  Cow-a-bunga!

Of course, I'll probably be eating just as much or more chicken from now on despite that story...'cause no matter how much this rooster crows, my sweet, beautiful hen runs my kitchen....and she loves her chicken.

That's it for now.  In the words of Kanye..."Omelet you finish" whatever else you were doing.  Time for me to scramble.  Keep the sunny side up.






Saturday, June 30, 2012

How to Not Be a Sissy


About once a week, I call my friend Dale up to see if we can have lunch.  Dale is one of the ministers at the church where I’m serving as an elder, so sometimes we talk serious and sometimes we talk fun.  On this particular day, he suggested a new restaurant, a place called Firehouse Subs in Beech Grove.  (It’s pretty good, by the way.)  When I met him there, as he sometimes does he had a couple of other guys with him, our youth minister and a youth ministry summer intern.  They got there first and had ordered, so I got my food and sat down with them a few minutes later.
I mentioned that sometimes we talk serious and sometimes we talk fun.  Well, a lot of the time we talk fun about serious stuff.  I suppose it is a way to process through the heavier stuff in a way that helps us to keep some perspective.  This was one of those days.  A subject came up that had been seriously discussed within our young adult group the night before, and we started bantering it around.  After a few minutes, I turned to the youth ministry summer intern…a guy who has just finished his first year of college…and asked him:

“So….., what about you?  What do you think we should do about this?”
He started to reply:

“Well, the safe thing would be…”
I interrupted him.

“I don’t want to do the safe thing,” I said.  “I want to do the right thing.  What do you think is the right thing to do?”
As I’m sitting here contemplating what I said to him, I am realizing how ridiculous it was for me to say that.  Not that it is the wrong thing to say.  I believe it to be absolutely the right approach.  The problem is with ME saying it.  See, I’ve spent a large part of my life in various situations settling for the “safe” thing.  I am constantly playing it safe.  I’m afraid to say it, but if I were one of the three guys in Jesus’ parable about the talents (a measure of money) …I would have been the guy to bury his…if you are unfamiliar with the story, that is not a good thing to do.  (See Matthew 25:14-30)

Basically, I tend to avoid conflict.  I don’t take very many risks.  My nephew says I “overthink” everything I do.  (I suppose he is usually right…but, I’m not going to think about that too much.)  Sometimes I wonder how I’ve ever become so successful in my sales career considering how much I dislike rejection.  Perhaps, it’s because I’m in a field where it doesn’t seem so personal when it happens.  Maybe?  Or, maybe I've pushed myself to grow in that area.  Maybe.
Anyway, this has been a battle for me much of my life.  It took me forever to ask my wife out on our first date…the fact is that I only ‘sort of’ asked her out when I actually did get up the nerve.  I have always struggled with this desire to play it safe, but over the years I have gradually grown to blow past my safety ropes and swim in the deep water once in a while.  I can tell you that it does get a little scary out there, but I know that I need to do it to really get stuff done.

Risk-takers are the ones who change things.  They are the ones who make a difference.
I never really came to a conclusion as to the complete right thing to do in my conversation this week.  I’m still working on that.  However, as I think about the concept of not just playing it safe, but doing the right thing in general...well…

Should I say it?
It’s risky.

People might pay attention and notice.
Well…

I’m going to do my best to stick with doing the right thing.  I’d like to make a difference, make some positive change, and…
Playing it safe is for sissies! 

Sunday, June 24, 2012

A Battle with Inertia

I have one significant personal nemesis; one enemy that creeps up behind me occasionally and pulls a sneak attack.   He’s a villain.  A mean-spirited bully.  I’ll tell you his name.

Inertia.

It seems that the older I get the more havoc he creates in my life.  I get motivated.  I get a plan.  I hit it full bore and start making some headway.  Then, all of the sudden he knocks me in the head and I come to a stop.
It happened earlier this year.  I had a plan…a detailed plan.  I was going to walk everyday…at least one mile…I was going to slowly increase until I was hitting three miles a day through the summer.  I was also doing push-ups, sit-ups, and squats…slowly increasing each.  I was doing really well.  I didn’t miss a day of walking from January all the way to April.  I was so excited, so proud of myself.

Wham!
Inertia hit me over the head.  Rrrrrrrrrrrrt.  Brakes.  Everything came to a stop.

In this case, I finally came to a day where I just couldn’t get the walk in.  I tried to tell myself that it was just one day.  Just one.  One out of 365.  No big deal.  Right?
Wrong.

It took the wind out of my sails and left me discouraged.
Discouragement rides hand in hand with inertia.  They are pals, buddies, amigos.  Discouragement does the dirty work of stopping the action, then inertia takes over to make sure it doesn’t start up again.

As I age, the battle becomes more intense.  It becomes more and more of a struggle; a struggle I cannot afford to lose.  What does that commercial say?
“A body at rest stays at rest.  A body in motion stays in motion.”

I have to keep moving.  I must limit my body’s atrophy.  In fact, I think I can still get fit again.  I can still feel the rush of endorphins and the blood coursing through lean muscle pumped by a strong healthy heart.  I have to be smarter; more careful.  I can’t afford injuries anymore.  They open the door to my nemesis.  But, I can still win the battles…I can still win this war.
I just can’t quit.

My problem right now is that inertia has his claws into my side.  I’m having a hard time getting free…getting going.  I have a bike to ride, but I can’t seem to make myself swing my leg over and pedal away.  I’ve got a road to walk on, but somehow there is always some reason to stay home.

It’s too hot.  I’m too tired.  I don’t have enough time.  I’ve got a meeting in a few minutes.  I need to send an email.  I have to feed the dogs.  I have to…to…to…to.
Inertia.  Inertia.  Inertia.

It’s a character thing.  And this is one character flaw that is a really bugger. 
This morning at church, I shared about how it all starts with a decision.  Mostly, I was talking about spiritual things, but this afternoon I was walking with my wife and complaining about how inertia had its grip on me, and she reminded me of my words. 

“Just like you said this morning,” she said.  “All it takes is a decision.”
Dang!  Now, I can’t blame some impersonal force anymore.  I guess it’s up to me.

Time to move again!

Thursday, June 14, 2012

The Cage of My Own Creation

I am contained within a cage of my own creation.
Shackled. 
Hobbled.
Anchored to accidental success.
Heckled by the whispers of self-pity.
Accused by the echoes of unfulfilled dreams.

Perhaps, there is still a road less traveled.
Mountains.
Forests.
An adventure yet in store.
Lingering just beyond my fingertips.
Waiting just over my horizon.

I have a yearning tugging at my heart.
Explore.
Seek.
Snap the bindings.
Unhinge the cage door.
Escape toward a new destiny.

Yet I dare not travel alone.
Love.
Companionship.
Loneliness abated.
Elements of a grand journey.
Friendship is itself a destination worthwhile.

Shall I step out of the cage?
Hesitant.
Apprehensive.
Shall I embark upon the new trail?
Shall I walk into that new horizon?
Perhaps the journey is more urgent than the destination.

I am contained within a cage of my own creation.
Patience.
Planning.
Peering toward intentional success.
Urged by Divine re-creation.
Revived by the hope of dreams redefined.

Perhaps my cage is simply indecision.
Perhaps destiny is found by stepping outside.

Friday, June 8, 2012

A Muncie Boyhood-The Fire and the Photo

 My sister was seventeen when I was born, and when I was little I thought she was the prettiest girl in the world with her blonde hair and petite features. 
She lived at home with us, but I don’t remember much of that except for a few sketchy events.  For example, I remember once when she had a bad headache and I wanted her to play with me.  She was lying on the bed with a cold rag on her face.
“Sissy, play with me,” I pleaded.

“No!  Go away!” she said.  “I’ve got a headache.”
Well, that didn’t sit too well in my toddler’s mind…so…I grabbed a heavy item off the headboard and smacked her on the head with it.  Maybe you could call that payback for her letting me walk my baby walker…you know…one of those little baby vehicles with wheels where the baby (me) sits suspended in the middle and can walk around….anyway, she let me walk my baby walker down the back stairs.  You’ve got to love those sibling relationships!  Served her right.

Shortly after I turned four, she had a baby, my nephew.  Since he was much closer to me in age than my actual siblings, we ended up growing very close as we grew up.  In fact, he is still more like my brother than she really is like my sister.  I spent many nights at his house, and he spent even more at mine.  We did everything together.
We stayed up late and watched Sammy Terry (the local late night horror movie host).

We built random stuff in my dad’s basement.
We horsed around and wrestled all over our bedrooms.

“You boys stop that wrestlin’ in there!” my mom would yell.
“We’re not wrestling!” we would shout back as we froze in place.  Ten seconds later, we were back to flips and body slams.

Another thing that we used to do sometimes, courtesy of my sister, was go to the drive in.  Being the late sixties and early seventies, often the kinds of movies shown at the Ski Hi Drive-in weren’t really appropriate for children, but she took us anyway, and maybe that’s another story.  The movies weren’t always that bad though.  Sometimes they were science fiction flics or scary movies.

Eventually, I grew to love going, and started looking for opportunities.  It was just such an opportunity that led to the catastrophic event at the center of this Muncie Boyhood entry.
My nephew, David was off on a trip to Tennessee with some other family members, but his mom (my sister) stayed home.  There was another little girl staying with her, and I was sort of friends with her.  Dawn (the girl) and I decided we wanted to go to the drive-in, so we asked my sister to take us.  It wasn’t too difficult to convince her, since she was in her twenties, she still liked to go out there too.  It was a summer evening.  It was warm.  The drive-in was the place to be. 

We never made it there that night.
The thing you have to know about my sister, though, was that she didn’t have much money, and she refused to buy food and drinks at the venue.  She would make her own popcorn and bring it plus a few Coca Cola’s along.

It was decided.  We were going, my sister, Dawn, and I.  So, my sis started to get things ready.  She checked her money…it was a bit thin.  She gathered a few Cokes.  She put the skillet on the stove to make the popcorn.  (In those days before microwaves, you made the popcorn in a skillet on the stovetop.)
“I’m out of popcorn,” she said.  “We’re going to have to go to the store, but first we’ll need to go see if we can get some money from dad.”

So, we jumped in the car and drove the five blocks to my house so we could squeeze a few bucks out of my dad.  In short order, he came through and we were back on the road.  For some reason that I no longer recall, we stopped back by her house and dropped off Dawn to do something to get ready, then my sister and I drove on to Marshall Carter’s Grocery Store to get the needed supplies.
I stayed outside while she went in to buy the stuff.  Shortly, there were sirens.  Soon, the fire trucks from the station down on Memorial Drive came screaming down Madison Street headed south…the same direction as my sister’s house.  I remember wondering where they were going, but didn’t think anything more of it.  When my sister came out, we just headed back to get the stuff ready.

Her house was on south Monroe Street; just one block off of Madison between 20th and 21st streets.  We traveled down Madison to 20th and made the turn toward Monroe.  We could see the flashing lights as we rounded the corner.  When we reached Monroe, my sister screamed!
“IT’S MY HOUSE!!!!!!!!  IT’S MY HOUSE!!!!!!!”

She had turned on the skillet, but neglected to turn it off when we left to go to the store.
According to Dawn, who was waiting nearby, after we dropped her off and drove away she opened the front door and the whole kitchen was ablaze.  She ran next door and banged on the door.  When the person opened the door, she told them about the fire and asked them to call for help.  Apparently, they didn’t immediately believe her, so they had to come see for themselves before making the call.  By the time we had gotten home, the fire was all but out, but not before destroying the kitchen and living room.  The secondary damage from water and smoke left the rest of the house in terrible shape and unlivable. 

My sister was a blubbering mess, so Dawn and I ran on foot to get my dad.  We told him what happened and he rushed back to handle whatever it is that dad’s handle in a situation like that.  Ultimately, he took care of my sister very well.  He got her a new place to live.  He personally rebuilt her house; doing most of the work himself, and then moved her back in.
In the end, the only casualty was David’s canary.  I remember the moment I realized that the bird had died.  I was sitting in my mom and dad’s dining room a few hours later.  We were all talking about the disastrous event and recounting how everything unfolded, when all at once I thought of the bird.

“Oh no!” I blurted out.  “David’s bird!”  It wasn’t my bird, but I cried anyway.  It broke my heart to know that the little thing perished, and I knew that David didn’t yet know, and somehow that made it even worse.
In the months that followed, I occasionally helped my dad at the burned out house.  He had an old light blue Chevy truck, and we made multiple trips to the dump with the smoky, burned, and water-logged mess that we stripped off the walls and floors.

There was one more crazy thing about that fire that we discovered when we were first allowed back inside.  I’ve told the story before about my brother who committed suicide.http://caaampersthoughts.blogspot.com/2011/04/muncie-boyhood-switches-and-crying.html  He left behind a widow, and she and my sister were fairly close.  They loved each other dearly, but often fought like true sisters (or cats and dogs).  My sister had an 8 X 10 photo of her in a frame sitting on a coffee table in her living room.  When we walked in the front door, the charred mess was everywhere.  Nothing was untouched and nothing was unmoved.  Nothing, that is…except for that photo of my brother’s widow.  It sat there in the middle of the soggy, burnt out room like a beacon in the dark of night.  It was unmoved and carried no indication of any damage either from fire, smoke, or water.  It was almost as if someone had carried it in after the fact and placed it there.

The expressed opinion of my mom and my sister was that my brother Freddie had protected it and kept it safe during the whole ordeal.  Who’s to say?  I will say this…I saw the carnage and I saw that picture sitting there.  It was truly weird.
One final thought…

In retrospect, sometimes it just might just be cheaper to buy the popcorn at the theater.

Monday, June 4, 2012

"How's your Spiritual Life?"

I had lunch today with a good friend and mentor.  I met him at his “office” as I have done many times over the last three or four years…the Bob Evans Restaurant on East Washington Street, here in Indianapolis.  He started the conversation as he nearly always does:

“Mike, how’s your spiritual life?”
Have you ever had someone ask you that?  I mean, we often ask each other things like: “How’s it going?” or “How are you doin’?”  We don’t actually want to know…we are just being courteous.  It’s another way of saying hello.  My friend’s question, though, will make you pause.  It does a few other things too, like….

Make you nervous.
Make you embarrassed.

Make you want to slide down under the table and hide!
The first time he asked me that question, I was caught off guard.  Not because I had never before been asked that or a similar question.  Rather, it was because it hadn’t happened in a long time, and never in the ministry of which I am currently a member.  I was caught off guard…and a bit embarrassed because at the time, my spiritual life was less than stellar.  When that happens, you have a choice to make: Will I be honest or will I hide?  In my case, I was sort of honest.  “Sort of.”  That means that I didn’t want to really hide…I wanted to tell the truth…but, I was also embarrassed and didn’t want to be completely straightforward.  So, I hemmed and hawed…I admitted to some struggles, but I lacked detail.  That said, you know, I walked away from that encounter refreshed.  I felt better because someone had pushed me to be open even just a little bit with what was on the inside, and my struggles had leaked out some.  It felt good to have someone care enough to ask me how I was doing.  I felt like I had company on my spiritual journey. 

Today, when he asked me that question, I answered like this:
“Keith, I try real hard to be doing really well anytime I’m going to have lunch with you.  Don’t ask me about last week, and next week isn’t here yet, but for right now, I’m doing pretty good.”

He nearly fell of his chair in laughter.  Never, in all the years that he’s been asking that question, had anyone answered it in quite that way.
But, you see, that’s the glory of great spiritual relationships…especially relationships where there is a sense of mentoring or discipleship.  They drive you to be better than you would be otherwise.  They influence you to focus on the facets of life that are primary and of highest importance.  Like the Six Million Dollar Man, they make you better than you were before.  (Children of the 70’s will get that reference.)  I am a better man today because there have been a handful of men over the years (along with my wife) who have taken the time to really ask me how my walk with God is doing, and through their influence my life has been changed and continues to change for the better.

Here are a couple of scriptures to emphasize my thoughts:
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit.  Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of others.  Philippians 2:3-4

To the point of my post, we need to care enough to ASK and LISTEN to one another.  We need to show an interest in the lives (interests) of each other.
This is the message we have heard from Him and declare to you: God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all.  If we claim to have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.  But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, His Son, purifies us from all sin.  1 John 1:5-7

When we hold all our mess inside, are we not hiding in the darkness?  We need to have folks in our lives that will help us drag it all out in the light.  We need to be honest with God, and we need to be honest with one another….and we can then have real fellowship with both God and our friends.
So,……

How IS your spiritual life?    

Monday, May 28, 2012

Memorial Day 2012

Ralph DeCamp...last guy on the left.

Today is Memorial Day 2012.

This morning, my wife and I drove to Muncie to place flowers on the graves of my mom, my dad, my brother, and my little niece that died in 1967.  Standing there at the graves of my parents and my brother, I struggled with my emotions.  I truly miss them, and while it is easier to just go about my daily life without the pain of stopping to consider the hole they have left in my heart, I do very much appreciate the opportunity that Memorial Day provides to REMEMBER.

I probably sometimes spend too much time remembering…especially during my periodic trips to Muncie.  I go there for business from time to time, and I often find myself driving past my folks’ old house.  It looks so much the same that I feel like I ought to be able to trot right in the back door and check out the contents of the refrigerator.  Even the grape arbor that my dad built when I was a kid is still standing.  Today, I went by and there was smoke coming from a grill in the backyard.  No one was around…probably all inside…but, it was nice to see some life in the yard.  One day, I’ll see someone outside.  Then, I’ll stop and ask him or her how the old house is holding up.

Of course, Memorial Day has its roots in the remembering of our American military veterans.  I thought of that too as I looked at my dad’s brass stone with the US Army insignia.  I’ve mentioned his service before, but I thought I’d share (perhaps again) a couple of his stories.  I wish I had taken the time to talk more with him about these things while he was available to me, but isn’t that how it always goes?  We take too much for granted until we no longer have access.

My dad was in WWII.  He was in the Army Air Corp…the precursor to the US Air Force, and served in the European Theater as a crewman on a B26…the Martin’s Marauder.  After he passed, I took a close look at his military records and found numerous decorations: six bronze stars, air medals with silver clusters, etc.  I once tried to find out the details on the reasons for those medals, but unfortunately, the military no longer has the records because of a fire at a major records center years ago.  It seems I have more detail than the US government on his service.

One document I found was a typed paper from one of his commanding officers that details over 70 missions in which he participated.  This alone is amazing when you consider two things: the life-expectancy of an individual serving on one of those big planes was not very good, and the normal number of missions before a person was sent home was only about twenty-five.  Dad had told me that he had gotten way ahead of his actual crew and they wanted to send him home, but he refused to go until the rest of the guys could go.  He got so far ahead because he started volunteering to fly with other crews on days when his own crew was not scheduled to fly.  He would fill in for crewmen who were ill, injured, or otherwise found some reason to not get off the ground.  I am amazed at the courage that he demonstrated, and I only wish I had one ounce of that in my own bones.

Contrast that record with what he told me about his very first mission.  They were flying into heavy flack. (If you want to know what that was probably like, watch the invasion sequence from “A Band of Brothers.”)  They were under fire, and my dad was scared to death, so he prayed.

“God, please take away my fear!”

He said that after the prayer a sense of calm came over him.  He was no longer frozen with fear and he was able to serve in every way necessary and even beyond.  I can only imagine the intensity of that situation, and it builds my faith to hear the story of how God placed His hand upon my father at that time and in that situation.

That is not to say that there weren’t some serious close calls.  On one occasion, they were on another dangerous mission and under fire.  They were hit and the plane greatly damaged.  The pilot radioed back to the rest of the crew:

“Boys, I don’t think we’re gonna make it!” he said.  “You better get your chutes on!”

All of the crewmen grabbed their parachutes and fastened them on…except my dad.

“Ralph!  Get your chute on!” they said.

“Look at my chute,” replied my dad.

They took a look and the shrapnel had shredded his parachute.  It was useless.

Obviously, the plane made it home, since I’m here to retell his story, but I can’t image the incredible intensity of that moment.  I suppose it is in times like that you simple have to let go.  You’ve done all you can do, and then all that is left is to let God do what He will do.  I am thankful that He saw fit to bring my dad home.

As I write this, there is a new DeCamp in the US Air force.  My great nephew, Nathan just finished his Basic Training in San Antonio.  To see him in his uniform with “DECAMP” printed across the chest makes me proud.  He is a good man with a good heart.  I know that he loves God.  I pray that God will give him the same courage that He gave my dad sixty-eight years ago.  I trust that he will serve his country with the same honor.

Ah, well.  Time to stop contemplating the past and eat some burgers off the grill.  I hope your Memorial Day holiday holds some special thoughts for you as well.

Saturday, May 26, 2012

A Muncie Boyhood-Horse Crap & Horseplay

As a boy, I loved horses.  I never had one, but I always wanted one.  I used to beg my dad for us to move to the country so I could play in the woods, and so I could have a horse.  I suppose you could blame it on all the old cowboy shows…Marshall Matt Dillon…Little Joe…The Lone Ranger…they all looked so strong and cool up on those big beautiful horses.  By the time I was sixteen, my interest in them faded as my interest in girls overtook my senses…but, at fifteen, I still liked them very much.  So, when my best friend Tim…Tena’s brother*…asked me to go help him with his job at the stables on Cornbread Road, I jumped at the idea.  (*See "The Crush")

Tim was a couple of years older than me, but we spent a great deal of time together.  At this point, he had his driver’s license, and a car.  Riding with him could be somewhat life-threatening, but I survived.  He had a job cleaning out the stalls at a horse stable, a stable with a huge barn with multiple stalls.  The job entailed driving a tractor around the barn pulling a manure spreader.  At each stall, he would scoop out the horse waste, being careful to not overly disturb the horses, and then drive the spreader out into a field to spread it around.  Following that, he needed to fill a wheelbarrow with the sawdust from a giant pile in the middle of the barn, carry it to each stall, and spread it down under the horse to absorb the next round of waste…until the next day when the process was repeated.
The deal with helping Tim out was that it meant he could get it done much quicker if we tag teamed it.  He scooped out the stalls and drove the tractor.  Then, I would spread out the new sawdust.  I would have loved to have driven the tractor; driving anything with an engine at fifteen was cool and fun…even if it was only pulling a pile of horse crap.  But, no.  I drove (pushed) the wheelbarrow.  I think he let me try it out once, but actually running it was not going to be an option for me.

For some reason that escapes me now, I agreed to help him clean nasty horse waste out of all those stalls…for free…from the goodness of my heart…just because we were friends.  What did I get out of the deal?  Read on, my friend.  Read on.
We drove on out there.  He showed me the barn…the stalls…the horses…the pile of sawdust…and the tractor.  I don’t recall the make of the tractor, only that it was engaged with a clutch.  You depressed it to stop, and you let it up to make the thing go.  The more you let it up, the faster it went.  All the way out was one speed…not fast, but quick enough…and very powerful.

The work started normally enough.  He scooped out a few stalls, and I started the process of replacing the sawdust.  My process worked like this:  Fill a barrow full, unlock the stall, dump the sawdust, push the barrow out, spread the dust around, close and latch the stall, start again on the next one.  Generally, when I pushed the wheelbarrow out, it was facing directly away from me, and the handles would be sort of wrapped around my legs as I turned to latch the stall door.  On one occasion, that became problematic.
One thing I hadn’t mentioned was Tim’s tendency for horseplay…no pun intended…and his slightly dangerous sense of humor.

Anyway, at this one stall which was situated on a corner, I ran headlong into that precarious idea of fun.  The stall was the first one on the right as you entered the main doors.  The gate to the horse was facing away from the barn door.  To the right was a drive that led to the fields where you dumped the manure.  I had dumped the new sawdust, had pushed the barrow out as normal, and was busy latching the door with my back to Tim on the tractor; the handles of the wheelbarrow wrapping my legs.  I heard the engine start to rev up.  I turned to look.  That was when my life was almost sacrificed in the name of horse-crap.
Tim thought it would be hilarious to scare the poop out of me with the tractor.  When I turned to look at him, he was driving that thing directly at me and acting like he was planning to hit me with it.  That was when his foot slipped off the clutch and the tractor lurched forwarded and slammed into the barrow.  It drove the little cart directly at me, trapping my legs inside the handles!  Obviously, the power of the tractor was not going to be halted by the wooden handles of that cart, so I dove.  I dove to my left as fast as I could, and the tractor continued until it drove the wheelbarrow all the way through the stall door, breaking it loose!

At this point, I didn’t yet know that this was all an accident.  All I knew was that the guy who I thought was my best friend had just nearly crushed me with a tractor.  Was he going to back away from the stall and come at me again?  I didn’t know.  My leg was hurt.  I crawled…as fast as I could… I crawled out of the barn and rolled to the left so that he couldn’t get me directly.  I was scared, and adrenaline was coursing through my system.  Flopping over on my back, I grabbed my left knee with both hands and hoped he wasn’t going to come after me again.
Sometime later, I’m not sure if it was thirty seconds or several minutes, Tim came running out of the door looking for me.

“Mike!  Are you okay?  Are you hurt?”
“What did you do?!  Why did you hit me?!”  I nearly screamed at him.

“I’m sorry.  It was an accident.  I was just trying to scare you, but the clutch slipped.  Are you okay?”
“I don’t know.  I think I’m okay, but my knee hurts pretty bad.”

“Oh, >bleep  I’m gonna get fired.”
“Is the horse okay?”  I asked.

As it turned out, he had driven the tractor all the way into the stall door breaking the latch, but other than being frightened, the horse was fine.  Tim helped me up, and I hobbled into the barn with him.  I wasn’t bleeding, but I had hit my knee really hard on the handle of the wheelbarrow as I dove out of the way of the hurtling tractor.

Standing safely out of the way, I watched as he backed the tractor away from the stall.  We both examined the damage, and Tim decided he could fix it up pretty well.  He was hoping no one would notice the cracked wood after he nailed it back together.  With an uninjured horse and a repairable stall, the only remaining factor that could lead to his dismissal was my injury.

“Don’t tell anyone.  Okay?”  He pleaded.

“Tim, I’m hurt pretty bad,” I said. “I can barely walk straight.  Someone is going to ask what happened to me.”

“So make up something.”

“You know I won’t lie.”  And I didn’t.  I suppose I had to have been the most honest fifteen year old boy in Muncie in 1977.  “If someone asks me what happened, I’m not going to lie about it.”
“Please, Mike.  I really don’t want to get fired.”

A few minutes had gone by, and the initial pain was beginning to subside. 

“Okay, I’ll do my best.  I won’t tell anyone what happened, and we’ll hope no one notices.”

Ultimately, I forced myself to walk normally for weeks afterward.  When alone, I limped like one leg was shorter than the other, but whenever any adult was around I swallowed the pain and hid the hobble.  I should probably gone to the doctor, had X-rays, and some sort of treatment, but I wanted to protect my friend.

I think you all may be the first to know the truth.  The jig is finally up.  He kept his job…at least for a while…and I never had any knee ramifications….at least not yet.  I’m not sure how I was able to hide that injury because it hurt like the dickens, but I did.  But, there is one thing that you can be assured of…

I NEVER helped Tim clean out horse stalls again!

Sunday, May 13, 2012

Henry the Preacher Volume 1 Number 2


I hope you enjoy this new Henry the Preacher cartoon.  This is my first foray into color for Henry.  My wife (the mother of my children) liked it...and that's all that matters on Mother's Day...Right?

Saturday, May 12, 2012

A Muncie Boyhood-The Great Pop Bottle Caper

“Hey Mike! Let’s go to a movie!” suggested my nephew, David.


“Sure,” I said. “How much money you got?”

“Maybe fifty cents. You?”

“A dollar.”

“We’re gonna need more than that,” David stated the obvious.

“Maybe we can cash in some pop bottles!” I suggested.

This is just an example of a conversation that I must have had with my best friend and nephew, David a hundred times when we were kids. As a boy in Muncie, there were only a few ways to get money. There was mom…not too reliable. There was dad…he was either asleep or at work. There was mowing yards…a good source in the summer.

And, there were the pop bottles.

All you had to do was collect them, get someone to transport you to the Wise Supermarket, and all the sudden you had money. Ten cents a bottle was the going rate when I was a kid.

Some folks actually got sustenance money by riding around on bicycles looking for discarded bottles. In those days, most sodas…Cokes, Pepsis, Dr. Peppers, Mt Dews…came in glass bottles. Most of those bottles were recycled…unlike today when most of the plastic bottles are either thrown in the trash or tossed out the window to collect in the weeds. Oh, to be sure, back in the day, people still tossed them out the window. I guess folks never change that much. However, the difference was that the glass bottles had value, so other people would come along and pick them up.

We did some of that, but mostly we just saved them up from various trips down the street to Cantrell’s Barber Shop. He had the coldest pop in town. It wasn’t unusual to open your bottle to find ice floating in the drink. Some of my fondest memories are of quick trips down the alley to the pop machines on a summer afternoon, or late night strolls down Hackley Street in the summer to get a Dew to sip on the front porch while watching the cars go by. After two or three weeks in the summer, we’d have three or four eight-bottle cartons ready for deposit, so I’d nag my mom until she’d drive me to the store to cash them in.

There was one summer when a “person that I know extremely well” was “up at the lakes” with his other cousins. “Up at the lakes” is what we called it. The actual place was a little house on a channel leading to a lake near Wolcottville, Indiana. This “person” would go up there for a week or so almost every summer, and this summer was no different. In this story, the “person” and his cousins shall remain unnamed because I’m not sure of what the statute of limitations are for their actions.  (Wink, wink.)

Anyway, this particular trip found several of the cousins all together at one small lake house. They were all boys…all teen boys…and they decided to camp out in tents in the yard. This yard was down the road and around the corner from a little general lake store called Bill & Casey’s Landing. It was one of those places where you’re not really sure if the front door is by the road or by the docks on the other side. They sold food and various boat/fishing supplies. You could get bologna and cheese out of one refrigerator and worms out of the next.

You could also cash in pop bottles there.

The thing was, it was a small little place. All of their storage was taken up with various goods for sale, so there was no room to store all of the bottles they took in through the deposit deal. As a result, they would stack them behind a little wall…outside…a practice that did not escape the notice of certain teenage boys.

A plot was hatched.

The cousins would wait until about midnight when everything was dark and quiet, then they would walk down to the little store and swipe all those pop bottles, and subsequently cash them in all over again the next day. Masterminds at work.

Night came. It got late. It got dark. The boys made their way to Bill & Casey’s. While one kept a nervous watch due to his reluctance to take part actively, the others snuck behind the store and reemerged with the empty bottles.

“What are we gonna do with all of ‘em?” asked one cousin. “We can’t take them home ‘cause our folks will want to know where we got ‘em.”

Another mastermind responded, “We’ll drop ‘em in the grass along the way, then we can get up in the morning and collect them just like we found them.”

“Good idea!”

As the boys made their way back to the little lake cabin, they began to drop a bottle or two every few feet in the grass and weeds. Brilliant! No one would know the better. Soon, all the bottles were safely stashed along the way, and the boys were back snug in their tents.

Excitement turned to slumber, and the night soon became morning. Eager to go “find” their treasure, the boys were quick to get up, and while trying to act nonchalant they made their way up the road. If their parents were looking, the very fact that they were all up and walking down the road so early would have made them wonder what was going on, no matter how nonchalant they were about it. Even so, the idea was to just act cool and sort of stumble upon the bottles. Then, collect them up, take them home, and later take them back to Bill & Casey’s store to get the deposit.

“I know I put one right here!” said one cousin.

“Where’s it at?”

“I don’t know.”

They began to trot up the road….looking in the grass along the way…..

Nothing. Nada. Zip. Zero. Zilch. There are no bottles anywhere to be found. Sometime between midnight the night before when all those bottles were dropped and early the next morning, someone had come along and collected every one. The great pop bottle caper had failed, but to that “person that I know very well’s” great relief there were never any ramifications.

Whether a random stranger picked them up much earlier in the morning, or their parents had seen what they did but never spoke of it, or even perhaps some neighbor of the store turned in the caper but they weren’t nabbed, none of them ever knew. It was a great mystery to everyone involved, but soon their attention turned to more important things…

Teen girls in bikinis.



Saturday, April 28, 2012

A Muncie Boyhood-Sugar and the Blizzard

My bedroom window gave me a nice view of the corner of 21st and Hackley Streets. The slight slope down 21st toward Hackley made for some exciting, but wasted time during snow storms as my nephew David and I would sit and watch cars slide through the stop sign into traffic. I don’t really remember seeing any real accidents, although David claims that we watched at least one rear-end crash. What I do remember is watching the snow blowing and falling…and blowing and falling…and blowing and falling for what seemed like days during the Blizzard of 1978.


People still talk about that particular snow storm. It’s no wonder. It was the biggest weather event of maybe the last fifty years, perhaps of the century. The temperatures dropped to frigid levels. The wind was blowing at 40 mph. And, it snowed, snowed, and snowed…somewhere between 15 and 20 inches, more in some areas. The drifts were crazy deep. Hackley Street had drifts that were taller than my head. The Army Corp of Engineers had to bring in special equipment to clear all the streets.

I can remember shoveling our back walk following the storm. I did it by hand with a scoop shovel. Luckily, it was drifted away from the door enough that we could actually open it, but after you got outside it was about two feet deep across the balance of the yard. I had to scoop it off in layers. I wasn’t particularly fond of that chore anyway, and to have to scoop off two feet of snow all the way to the garage was nuts. Besides that, I had to scoop off a path to my dog’s doghouse….and an area for her to “do her business.”

The most vivid memory I have of that storm revolves around my dog. The night before the storm really began to nail us, the weather guys (Stan Wood on WISH and Bob Gregory on WTHR) were warning of the intensity and danger of this particular storm. But, the problem was that weather guys were often telling us how bad things were going to be and often it turned out to be a dud. My dad wasn’t buying it.

Sugar was my old dog that lived in the backyard. We got her in probably 1963 or so, and she was getting pretty old. Rarely did my dad let her come in the house. The situation had to be extreme. When she did come in, she got to go down to the basement because she wasn’t house broken and would make messes. After listening to the weather reports and watching the news, I was convinced that this was definitely one of those extreme situations.

“Dad, it’s gonna be really nasty out tonight. We need to bring Sugar in.”

“No.”

“But, Dad…the weather is really bad. It’s supposed to get really cold and snow like crazy.”

“You’re not bringing her in. She’ll be just fine.”

“Come on, Dad. Please. Let’s bring her in.”

“No.”

I walked away quite angry, and concerned. I was worried about my canine companion, but I couldn’t bring her in without Dad giving the go ahead. There was nothing I could do, so I secluded myself in my room and watched the weather out the window until I was ready to sleep. Eventually, I went to bed and drifted off.

Fast forward to 4am. I’m sound asleep. Something is shaking me.

“Mike. Mike. Wake up.”

“Huh? What?”

“Mike, wake up,” my Dad was saying. “It’s really bad outside. You need to go out and get your dog.”

Can you say, “I told you so…”? I wanted to, but that would have made him mad, and I was more concerned about Sugar.

I jumped up, threw on some clothes, and pulled on my rubber over-boots (without zipping them up), and trudged out the back door. Wow! I had never seen so much snow. It was coming over the top of my boots! I had to lift my feet high with each step as if I were doing a high-step march. When I reached her little house, the snow had drifted in a curl around the front leaving only about a two-inch crack through which I could see the opening. That drift was as high as the roofline of the doghouse.

Brushing the snow away with my bare hands, I found my little white dog with the brown ears shivering inside. I had to dig out the opening enough to get her out, and then I carried her back to the house, trying to step into the same spots I had already trudged through before. She was cold, but she was fine.

I think she was in the basement for a couple of days until it stopped snowing and I could clear away enough of the yard for her to go back outside. I know I had several messes to clean up. That was okay though. Uncharacteristically for the Muncie Community Schools of the era, they actually closed the schools for the whole week, giving me plenty of time to scrub the basement floor and scoop the snow off the back walk.

I suppose my Dad looks like the bad guy in this story. But, before we judge him too harshly, maybe we should consider WHY he was actually up at 4am. I think he got worried about her too, and got up to check things out. When he saw how bad it was, he got me moving. I think he loved my dog as much as I did, but he came from a different era and dogs were still considered to be animals….and animals stayed outside.

I write this as the two dogs I have now are sprawled out and snoozing on my sofa in my living room. I wonder what my dad would think of that?